How to handle yourself when your child is having a temper tantrum

Take care of yourself while your child is experiencing temper tantrums

It is very challenging, but possible: Center yourself; do not let negative thoughts about yourself enter your mind. And if they do, “talk back” to them.

Remind yourself that you are a good person and a good parent. That this is an important experience for your child, so you have to stay the course.
You can practice centering yourself before the temper tantrums occur. You can research the subject, learn it from your yoga practice, from friends, or from books. Or create a process works for you. Do whatever it takes not to be caught up in the drama.

3 thoughts on “How to handle yourself when your child is having a temper tantrum

    • Thank you for your comment!

      Not responding to the child’s drama is important. This is the child’s power struggle, and it does not have have to be the parent’s.

      I have an issue with the parent walking away. It does help the parent to stay calm at a moment of chaos, but we need to consider the child’s needs at that moment.

      The child is out of control. S/he is stuck. S/he is expecting the parent to help him or her. The parent does not have to give him/her what s/he wants, but s/he can give messages of love and support, to model to him or her how to be calm and recover from an upset situation, to learn that he/she has the power to control his or her feelings and body, and that we do not punish and admonish him/her for not being there yet.

      I suggest that the parent stay near their out-of-control child, keep the child safe, and just lovingly wait for the storm to be over, with open arms, to reconnect with love.

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